When I started on my weight loss journey nearly 3 years ago, I started with the program laid out by Dr. Phil in his book, The Ultimate Weight Solution. In this book, he talks about finding your payoff for being fat. This really stumped me at first.
What payoff could there possibly be for staying overweight?
Being overweight puts me at risk for diabetes, heart disease and high cholesterol. It makes me feel tired, depressed and anxious and contributes to my low self-esteem. What possible reason could I have for wanting to stay in that condition?
Dr. Phil explains that we get a reward for our thoughts and behaviors. It may not be apparent at first, but if you dissect your thought pattern, you may see it. For example, if you tell yourself you don’t have time to exercise, you’ll never have to try to become more active. He says that is your payoff for being overweight. He says, “you have an excuse for not doing anything about your activity level, and you avoid the pressure of reaching for something better.”
Are you more comfortable sitting on the sidelines? Do you enjoy the taste of food and the immediate gratification you get from having something sweet? Or are you like so many others who use food to calm their emotions?
The first step to real weight loss is to discover your payoff and nip it in the bud. It can even be irrational rewards that you reap and you just never realized how powerful this line of thinking was.
Challenge yourself to push past the barriers that hold you back from doing what you want. Decide that this is the time in your life that you are going to make a permanent change and develop new payoffs.
In keeping with the example of exercise, if you make the commitment to exercise 6 days a week and you follow through with it, you will start to see benefits from it. Your body will start changing, your clothes will fit better and your self-esteem will improve. These are the real payoffs we should be looking for.
Put your payoff to stay fat to rest and set up your life so your payoffs work for you in a positive way. Then sit back and reap the rewards you deserve, including a leaner, healthier you.